I have seen many of them in my life. The ones who smile at me as if the sun is living on their faces and the same ones who stare or frown at me on another day as if they are in deep pain or have lost something precious on that day. I call this Attitude Problem. If someone has an attitude problem, it clearly means trouble and loneliness in existence.
What is attitude problem then? It means a disposition that is unacceptable. I guess on the whole because our approach to life’s situations is different from others, we see the ‘attitude’ problem of others. Good attitudes to life’s situations can open doors and bad attitudes can build barriers!! Many people I know, including loved ones have lost number of friends, left number of jobs, lost loves and relationships because of malfunction in attitude. A person with attitude problem is also a social snob who pushes away friends and family and become isolated.
When I think of a person with attitude problem he or she can be rude, uncouth and cold at times when others least expects them to behave that way because there are many people out there who look so refine and elegant and who can throw you off balance with their peppery words and body language. Some people who have attitude problem actually suffer from self-pity. These sorts of persons need ‘fixing’ to help them take life’s situations easily as they always tend to think most other people are luckier than them. Then there are some who constantly find fault with other people’s behavior not knowing that they have more problems on their backs or who fail to realize that on many occasions they do have the same attitude or behavior as the person whom they are complaining about.
And there are workplace colleagues who can have attitude problems. The ones who cannot do their own job well but who criticize their colleagues; the ones who sigh when the phone rings; the ones who just stare at you and walk away when you wish them a good weekend. Then there are the kids and youths of today who just have the most horrible attitude problem. They have no respect for the elders and their teachers or their fellow classmates too.
You don’t just wake up with an attitude problem one morning. Attitudes are very deep personal beliefs and they probably take years to develop and therefore will take time to change. Some develop such attitudes because they never mixed around with different kinds of characters when they were younger; some become like that because they live alone and do not socialize much; some have attitude problem because they think they are smart or very nice looking but their attitude makes the onlooker see them as stupid and ugly. Some grow up with attitude problem because someone in their family has the same habit. Some simply have attitude problem because they are suffering in pain but never get to solve their physical suffering. Some behave in such manner because they miss a loved one.
The prettiest women can look ugly within a second because of an attitude problem and the most unattractive women can become beautiful within a second because of her attitude to life’s situations. Body language – the pitch of voice, tone of voice, movement and gestures can also show the attitude problem of some people. Many people with attitude problem are attention seekers although they will swear they are low profile people. They know very well that attitude makes people pay more attention to them and talk to them and they must be enjoying it to continuously have that attitude problem in them!! I hope God will phase out creating people with attitude problem…….maybe we can have people created with buttons on them so that if we see anyone with a bad attitude, we can switch off that button and switch on the good attitude button!!
Some may not agree with my opinion, but then you see, I have an attitude problem too – I make up my mind to agree to what I have concluded.
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